Have you ever given it a thought that one
of the most important things in your marriage relationship is the
matrimonial bed. But most couples go about it is as if it is the least
important. But I want to emphatically say that this is one area that
couples often ignore to their own peril.
Though we are often caught up in the
several activities that define our daily lives, we can’t afford to
ignore the sex bed. Couples must always remember that ‘beds’ are not
only made for sleeping but for keeping up the spark in sexual
relationships.
How can couples have the best sex and
still have it regularly?
Continue reading after the cut....
Although married couples struggle to agree on a
variety of issues, regular sex is one area in which many often give up
trying to find solution to. Nearly always, one partner wants sex more
than the other. And, contrary to conventional wisdom, it is not always
the men who ask for more.
If you and your mate are struggling in
this area, try this to improve sexual satisfaction for both of you.
First, make sure you are both observing the same mutual sex view rules.
Then approach the sexual aspect of your marriage in the context of your
entire relationship.
The mutual sex view rules recognise a few
overarching truths about sexual intimacy. Settle the fact that God is
the creator of sex and all its pleasures; and that it was God who
decided that sex in marriage should be extraordinarily, incredibly,
unbelievably and exceptionally enjoyable.
Then, couples must agree to keep talking
about it. Great sex begins with talking together even in an open
environment. And do not assume anything about your mate. Many factors
lie behind each person’s desire for more sex or less.
Do not assume that it is simply a male versus female inconsistency in desire or that you know what your spouse’s “problem” is.
And do not insist that your spouse must
conform to your libido and timetable, instead give him or her so much
sexual pleasure that he or she will agree to any of your terms
unconsciously. On the flip side, do not assume your mate knows why you
feel the way you do. You have to express your own feelings, preferences
and concerns in a selfless manner.
Instead of assuming, commit yourself to
understanding your spouse and to helping him or her understand you. That
is part of your lifelong commitment to care for and treasure each
other.
Then, always look out for how the other
will be best satisfied by employing any of the types of sex to
re-energise your sexual life. It is when couples unite sexually that one
can say that their marriage is really living!
Recently, some British researchers asked
254 businessmen and women where they got their best and most creative
ideas outside of the office. Their top five thinking zones are in the
car, while socialising, while lazing around, in the toilet and after a
good bout of lovemaking with their spouses. Whoa!
So, why limit your sexual experience,
adventure and exploration to the same routine when there are lots of
erotic, sensational and sensual sexual bouquets that you and your spouse
could sample from?
This week, in my quest to re-energise
your sex beds, I am going to suggest special secrets that would
certainly enliven your marriage and protect it from the troubles that an
inactive sex life brings to couples.
Remember when you have the gift of time,
languishing in super sensory, soulful love-making can be a rhapsodic
revelation…and a relationship booster. With sensual sex, it’s not all
about where you and your spouse are going, but the process that gets you
there. When you slow down and attempt to keep your orgasm at bay,
you’re more focused on exploring every inch of each other’s bodies and
savouring your time together. The emotional benefits are long-lasting
too. Knowing that he cares enough to lavish his love on you for hours,
and that you’re his number one priority, builds confidence and security.
Your bond, in general, will be stronger because you’ve made the bedroom
a place to enjoy each other – not just sexual, but a place where better
life decisions are made due to the effect of sex on the mind and body.
The effect of this kind of sex is that it helps to keep both partners
sex-logged, full, fresh and satisfied.
Due to our day-to-day pressure and
demands, sometimes, a quickie is highly recommended. This kind of sex is
like an earthquake, an eruption and an internal unexplainable release.
It gets one’s (especially the man) adrenaline rushing within a second
and before you know it, it’s over in a flash, and leaves you extremely
satisfied. Initiating a quickie can be the ultimate compliment a wife
can give to her husband because it does not only show how deeply she
desires him, but understands that the sexual desire of her man is
basically a matter of hormonal functions and regulations. It is also
‘ever-present.’ And this needs the physiological release. She is aware
that when she maintains an enthusiastic sexual interaction in the
marriage relationship, her husband feels more secured, ready to face
anything and looks at life from a better perspective.
In addition, when he’s had a stressful
day, a fast and furious romp really takes the edge off. When you can
tell he’s in a horny, hasty mood, don’t bother fully undressing. All you
need for a successful speedy sex is ‘be prepared.’ It’s your best
friend when you don’t have time to get completely warmed up.
Come to think of it, have you ever given
it a thought that it would be easier to give a speech in front of a
crowd than to help your wife reach orgasm first? Taking that plunge, it
may be worth it. Experts say that watching a wife flow in the pleasure
of orgasm is near the top of most men’s fantasy wish lists. But it’s not
just a very personal peep show; it’s a chance for the wife to teach her
husband exactly how she likes to be fondled, caressed and taken to the
seventh heaven. Revealing to your husband how he can master your sexual
areas is one of the most secretive and intimate things you can do
together.
Anyone with a pulse would be unwise not
to crave a hot and spicy sexual session. But sometimes, all you want is
the sexual equivalent of let just have fun; it may not be exciting, but
it makes you feel so good. Married lovers have sex for a lot of
different reasons. One of the reasons is to be soothed and comforted.
Making each other feel loved and cared for is the most powerful way to
bring the psychological and physical elements of your relationship
together. This type of sex is always recommended for couples facing one
physical challenge or the other. In other words, sickness and physical
challenges should not be strong enough to stop your sexual escapade.
For couples celebrating their honeymoon
right now, please, this is when you should go wild, go uncivilised with
each other. Don’t try to tame your passion. Awaken the sexual giant in
you. This sexual giant is the raw, primitive and rumbles kind of sex
that makes the bed spring make rhythmic sound, rattles bed frames, romps
the sheets – the more writhing and bucking, the better.
This is the time you should practise all,
go rear, go frontal, go down and make sure you do not leave any stone
unturned. Let it be that when you make reference to the honeymoon
experience, it would be with a satisfactory notion that you actually did
justice to the time. Basically because honeymoon is purely a
celebration of sexuality, you are not permitted to be shy during this
time for any reason. When you need more, just grab your husband’s hands
and wrap them around your waist – a cue that you want him to hold on and
thrust – and he’ll answer your call of the wild. Keep your neck down.
It’ll help you loosen up all the way down your spine so you can have the
best, try this and mail me.
Well, men generally are conquest-loving
creatures, which is why they get so hot when their wives let them take
over. If your husband feels like he’s at the top of his game, your
surrendering is a power trip and huge turn-on. Wives, please, during
foreplay, let your legs fall open and hold the headboard or pillows
above you so your whole body is exposed to him. Then invite him to slide
on top of you. Meet his thrusts halfway by rocking your pelvis upward
against his and lifting your legs in the air with your feet spread far
apart. This gives him room to manoeuvre his body and alternate between
deep thrusting and short pumping. Then drape your legs over his
shoulders so he can grab your ankles and position them where he wants
them. Tell him you want him to assist you reach orgasm. It means you
want him running the show because he has the skills to get you there.
Wives, gone are the days when you are
only to be seen and not be heard. It is no longer the man’s world; it is
our world. He’s been doing all the pouncing and pawing lately. At this
point, you take the reins. But a truly titillating takeover has to be
authentic and not staged. So, aggressively take over. This is the time.
If you don’t, some other lady may and I am sure you don’t want that. All
you just need to do is send him an SMS and say, “I’d love to be in
charge tonight.” Then gently grab his organ and rub it around your
G-spot as if you are so sure of what you are doing. He’ll happily submit
to your sexy request.
Culled - Funmi Akingbade
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